When you approach your life in extremes, it either all works out, or it’s a horrible failure. But even if it all works out, it’s fleeting and temporary. You still fall back into the pattern of aiming for the “all” and fearing the “nothing.” This is an exhausting
As you're learning to take care of yourself and move away from unhealthy behaviors, there can be a strange experienceof "now what?" When you've been used to soothing yourself in whatever problematic ways you have chosen (eating, restricting, shopping, caretaking, etc), leaving those behaviors can leave you feeling like you don't quite know yourself or know what to do with yourself.