Since shame usually develops slowly over time, from early experiences with caretakers and family dynamics, Shame develops as a sense of self.
When you approach your life in extremes, it either all works out, or it’s a horrible failure. But even if it all works out, it’s fleeting and temporary. You still fall back into the pattern of aiming for the “all” and fearing the “nothing.” This is an exhausting
Whether it be the voices of diet culture feeling a lot more vicious and louder to you, or your own inner vicious and critical voices swirling around, or your family giving you caring concern about your “health,” or feeling fed up, scared, and uncomfortable in your body, these doubts and fears can be normal stumbling blocks along the way. I decided to compile a blend of the most common themes my clients have struggled with
If your eating feels out of control to you, it could be a sign that there is something you are avoiding feeling, experiencing or doing. Getting to know the true hungers at the root of emotional eating and disordered eating can give you a new way to heal.
All the efforts you make to change or “perfect” yourself only deepen your feelings of shame. You are constantly in a state of “I’m not ok, unless....
You may have been battling binge eating, chronic dieting, and body image issues for years! Each new hope and intention to make this effort THE ONE that will work often gets met with a feeling of another failed attempt. Here’s the good news! You CAN find freedom from the hopeless cycle of binge eating and body shame, and actually have a healthy relationship with food and your body!